Activities like spa days, massages, shopping, or saying positive thoughts to yourself are all expressions of Selflove, they are not Selflove itself. Selflove isn’t thoughts or actions, it points to that which is beyond them. Selflove is experience. An experience that can be described as unity. In other words, Selflove is not what you think or do, it is what’s revealed when you stop thinking and doing. Within the stillness of the mind and body is where I directly experience Selflove most often.